I was talking about wolves with my husband Eric & my mother in law Rachel, & how humans are
similar to them. In a wolf pack, you have the Alpha wolf, who rules the
pack with power & authority, & needs followers to function. Then you have the Beta wolves, who follow the Alpha without question. They require a leader to function. Then there's the Omega wolf, who
desires to be the Alpha, & is eventually exiled from the pack
because of it. Humans are the same way. Our personalities reveal whether
we are an Alpha (leader), a Beta (follower), or an Omega
(rebel/outcast).
As Eric says, most humans are Betas. They need a leader. This doesn't make
them inferior, just typical. There are a few Alphas, who lead others. A
great example of this is apparent in disaster scenarios. Most people
run around panicking, trying to find someone calm to lead them. These
are Beta people. Then there are the few who remain calm enough to think
& act responsibly in times of stress. They are Alphas, and they tend
to lead & advise the others. According to this, Eric & I are
both Alphas. We both remain calm & focused when disaster strikes. But in our marriage, things work a bit differently.
When I met Eric, I had never been in a relationship with an Alpha before. In
most aspects of my life I had been an Omega (an outcast) but in my
past relationships, I had always been the Alpha, and had been drawn to Beta's, probably out of a subconscious desire for control, in order to
make up for certain times I'd been severely controlled & taken
advantage of in the past. So here were 2 Alphas, both trying to rule the
relationship. I have finally given Eric his rightful place as Alpha in
the relationship. Not just because he's the male, but because, let's
face it, he is just smarter than me. :p & I think that although I
was drawn to Betas in the past, what I really needed was an Alpha to put
me in my place. Not that he hits me or anything (if he ever did I'd leave him & he knows that) but I look to him for advice on every
single decision I make, just like a Beta with an Alpha.
Anyway,
what I'm saying is that I've now become more of a Beta than an Alpha. People can change from one to the other, depending on their life phases
& relationships.
Then
there are the Omegas, who are constantly challenging authority &
most times have been outcast from the pack because of it. Every family &/or social circle has at least one of these. They are not necessarily
bad people, but are usually misunderstood.
Anyway, I think this is a cool way to categorize personalities &
relationships. So which are you? Alpha, Beta, or Omega?
